My house is not immaculate. Far from it. I have, however, been making a very concerted effort to keep things tidier. Even when the house is messy I’m kind of nutso about my bed being made and made properly — bottom sheet smoothed, the two pillow shams and then the pillows on both sides at least being in the same order, the edge of the sheet folded back over the comforter. (I know this makes me sound crazy and exacting but I swear I’m not — I just want my bed to look nice) My husband knows this.
99% of the time he’s still in bed when I get out of it. We had a gentle *discussion* yesterday that he could make the bed when he gets out of it seeing as how it’s nearly impossible for me to make it with him in it.
This morning I made my side when I got up and he made his…after a fashion. Actually, he yanked up the covers and tossed the pillows in random fashion to the top. This makes me crazier than if he’d done nothing. He’s former military. He was an Army Ranger for crying out loud. He knows how to do things to a standard.
So, here’s the question, do I:
1) Laud him for making the bed (he likes to be lauded for damn near everything he does) 
2) Thank him for making the bed but point out that he did a half-assed job 
(but then I look like a *itch 
)
3) Say nothing
I’m having difficulty with option 1 because I don’t believe in applauding mediocrity. If you’re going to do something, do it right. The real me is begging to go with numero 2, but he’ll just say that’s why he doesn’t do it because it’s not going to be right (I do think it’s a deliberate ploy on his part to get out of doing it at all). I think I’ll probably just opt for 3 and keep my yap shut either way.
What say ye?
I myself would go with option 3. I used to be like that but now, my bed generally gets made up on the day that I change the sheets, usually every Sunday. But in my situation I am the only person in the house and very seldom have anyone over….
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Comment by Ginger — January 10, 2008 @ 8:08 am
This is a hot button with me. I cannot stand half-ass. If you’re going to take the time to do something, then do it right. (Especially since he knows how to do it.)
Comment by Rhonda — January 10, 2008 @ 8:23 am
I don’t like half-assed either, but I dislike direct confrontation. So, I’d do it the “Southern Way”:
“Honey, when are you going to make your side of the bed?” (blink in innocence)
“I already did.”
“Really? I was just in there and it wasn’t made.” (More blinking.)
And so on, until he figures it out.
This, of course, will never happen in my house, because 1) I don’t care if beds get made and 2) DG is totally oblivious to many things, including most of my hint dropping…
Comment by Kimberly — January 10, 2008 @ 8:32 am
I’m thinking I’m going with #1, Ginger.
Uh-huh, just what I think too,Rhonda.
LOL, Kimberly, my DH would just want to know what I had stuck in my eye.
Comment by Jennifer — January 10, 2008 @ 1:03 pm
Jen, as you know, we have a stacking issue here. I’ve decided to let it go because otherwise I get so fed up, it’d be easy to go from
to…. Well, I’m sure you get it. (And I’m kidding except for the live and let live thing.)
Anna
Comment by Anna Adams — January 10, 2008 @ 1:21 pm
Stacking is an issue here as well, Anna. *sigh* One thing at a time.
Comment by Jennifer — January 11, 2008 @ 5:22 am